The topic of adopting vs. having a offspring came up again. I love that topic! Okay, here is my thoughts on the whole topic. I personally believe that those kids who are adopted are better off than those offspring because the adopted children are chosen by a couple who are willing to go through the process to adopt a child or children. There are so many children that need to be adopted and I applaud those who decided to adopt. I understand that many women have maternal instinct to have miniature version of themselves. That apply to men too. I strong believe that adopting is selfless thing to do because the one is giving children that already exist a love and home to feel safe.

Many pregnancies in this country are unplanned and most of them end up on welfare because they cannot afford taking care of the child while those who adopt the children. They have to pay upfront and the cost of raising the child/children. So, most of those people who chose to adopt are financially stable.

I am aware that there are many children that want to meet their biological mother. Not me. Because I don't see the woman who carried me for 9 months as my biological mother just a host who carried me so I can be adopted by people who will be better parents than she is. My biological mother did seek me out and found me. But she weren't prepared for what I had to say to her. That she's nothing to me because I already have a mother and father even if we don't share genes.

Now, I am part of big family with four other siblings, countless nieces and nephew, and parents. Some are offspring but so what?



So yeah.. I am adopted and darn proud of that!